Diaundra's TL;DR: Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

"Your past thoughts are the sponsors of your future." - Dr. Joe Dispenza

I wanted to be a Dr. Joe D. hater. Truly.

Dispenza is beloved by the 4:30 AM cold plunge, chlorophyll water, 432 Hz frequency girlies—the ones who spend $30 on Erewhon smoothies and somehow look radiant while doing it. And yet, the more I read, the more I realized… I’m about six months away from being the Spiderman meme.

But let me tell you—this book is undeniably good. A 10/10.

The Thesis:

Your thoughts and habits shape your reality. If you want to change your life, you have to rewire your mind—intentionally, consistently, and without excuse.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your Thoughts Are More Repetitive (and Negative) Than You Think
Most of us assume we have control over our thoughts. In reality, we’re running on autopilot—cycling through the same limiting beliefs, anxieties, and habits daily. Spend a day truly observing your thoughts, and you’ll see how much of your mental energy is spent reinforcing the same patterns.

2. You Are What You Do. You Are What You Think.
A lack of discipline in action and thought directly correlates to an unwanted reality. Every repeated action and belief reinforces who you become. Change starts at the level of thought before it ever translates into behavior.

3. The Difference Between Wanting to Grow and Choosing to Grow
Wanting to grow is knowing you shouldn’t eat the donut, wishing you didn’t want the donut, and then eating it anyway. Choosing to grow is not eating it. A new reality is quite literally a choice away.

4. Full Ownership = Full Creatorship
You can’t be selective about responsibility. If you only take ownership of certain aspects of your life, you only have partial control over its direction. Full accountability is the gateway to full transformation.

5. If You Can Perceive It, You Can Achieve It
Dispenza argues that visualization isn’t just a motivational exercise—it’s a neurological tool. The brain doesn’t distinguish between real and imagined experiences, which means rehearsing a new reality in your mind primes you to live it.

Final Thoughts:

I’ll leave you with one of the questions Dispenza poses to his readers that has stuck with me:

“What are your limiting beliefs about yourself? If you could rewrite them, what would they be?”

Because at the end of the day, transformation is less about external circumstances and more about how willing you are to break the habit of being yourself.

Till next time,
With love,
Diaundra

Full list of my 2023 reads & what i’ll be reading next → ‘Table of Contents’ or on IG